Short & Not So Sweet
This is coming out of nowhere, but here you go anyways…
I’ll tell you something you already know:
There are people out there, for whom no matter what you do, it will never be good enough.
I’ll tell you something else you might know:
You might end up related to one such person.
Now I’ll tell you something I’ve learned:
Family is not a right, it is a privilege. Some are born without family, some are born with atrocious family, some create family from friends & like minded misfits in the world, some adopt a family, & some go on to create their own family in the biblical sense, if you get my drift. And most likely, no matter how weird or dysfunctional your family may be, you probably love them anyway & tolerate things that would earn other people a smack in the kisser.
But I also believe there is enough bullshit & struggle & anger in the world, that those who undermine our happiness should never be a part of our ‘family’.
Your love will not change people. Their love for you will not change them.
You accept them as they are or you do not. Family or otherwise.
And that may mean you take a step back, because such a person is incapable of the change required for them to be in your life without hurting you.
And that fucking sucks.
But if you’re anything like me, you have enough negativity to battle in the world that adding an in-the-flesh negativity machine is simply not necessary.
And so I am here to give you permission to stop feeling guilty.
Love does not mean door stop. Family does not mean free pass.
They say what you allow, is what will continue, so step it up because your happiness is on the line & if that isn’t worth not-fighting for, then I don’t know what is.